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Your Online Presence: Are you “That Guy”?

by Brendan Wales • September 11, 2009 • View Comments

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I realize that you are a great human being and have accomplished more than most people at the ripe old age of 22, but please cool it on the status updates, tweets, and photo albums. There is a point where it is simply too much and you will be looked at more of a “tool” than someone who is well accomplished. We discuss our personal brand and online presence all of the time and this is just one more piece of that total brand you should be shooting for.

Just as in the real world, you need to be completely cognizant of what you are posting or uploading on to websites. You may think that something as innocent as updating your status 10 times a day as something that will not impact your career, but lets just say four years down the road, you just so happen to be interviewing with someone who was your “friend” on Facebook and all they can remember about you is your constant status updates and your obsession with commenting on photos. Do you think they want an employee who is constantly going to be on a social-networking site while they are at work or an employee who is going to tweet about his struggles with the organization? These are certainly extreme examples, but not being “That Guy” is pretty easy, so here is a list of questions to ask yourself before you let the world know what is going on in your life.

Does this relate to work? Unless it is your job to speak about your organization on the web please use your discretion before you go tweeting about XYZ Company. Some people are paid to do this type of marketing and most likely you are no that person.

How personal is this? Honestly, no one wants to hear about your struggles. It’s simple. Life is hard for everybody. You are not the only one that had a rough week, so please don’t bring everyone else down with you.

Am I bragging? Yes, the thought of owning a brand-new BMW is pleasant, but guess what, no one else cares about your new ride. In the eyes of your followers or your friends you basically just said, “I am either very spoiled or make a lot of money”. Both of which, no one cares about.

You can have too strong of an online presence and it is a very fine line, but do me a favor and play it on the safe side, because you will never know who is taking inventory of the content you release into the web. By eliminating the little mistakes that your peers are consistently making, you will be able to separate yourself from the pack and continue to make strides toward becoming remarkable

Brendan Wales is a co-founder of StarvingFreelancers,com, a site dedicated to bringing together talent and opportunity.  He studied Finance at the University of Georgia and enjoys working with small-businesses.  Two of his favorite authors are Jack Kerouac and Ayn Rand.  Wales’ goal in life is to wake up in the morning and be excited about going to work.

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  • Matt Searles
    oh I don't know, I think you might be over stating it a little.

    First off.. I have a crap load of friends who's job is to tweet and facebook and all the rest of it. Isn't this a part of personal branding? To some extent shouldn't this be a part of everyone's skill sets? In that interview with the facebook friend.. I'm sure we'd have a great conversation on that..

    How much people care about your struggles and successes I think.. isn't so black and white. For me there is a very personal quality to social media and my social media engagement.. where I care about the people I'm interacting with.. dare I use the word love?

    I didn't get a BMW.. but if I did.. I'm sure I'd be posting something about it.. cause I'm sure I'd be excited about it.. and the people who care about me would probably be excited for me.. If it was purely me bragging about the BMW.. that's another story.. but that's sorta my point.. is that I think it all depends.

    Also I think people do want some of the personal stuff.. people want real flesh and blood humans.. I mean you can over do it and its about balance.. but I think it's a real mistake to leave all that stuff out.

    I know I got a big response when my mom died and I posted stuff about it. A lot of people reached out at that point.. and when I thought I would be the most alone I felt the most connected.. it was beautiful..

    To me that's a very key thing.. to me social media is about trying to connect with people on a genuine level.. and.. when we connect with people on a genuine level we have these kinds of conversations.

    None of that's to totally disagree with you.. I mean.. well I have a friend who puts out way too much stuff.. He's a part of a graduate program I've been taking a class in.. and we've all said as much and he understands.. but it keeps going.. but still we know where he's coming from so he's not that guy to us.. and I guess our critique of him is to help save him from being "that guy" to others.

    And to be someone who things the world revolves around them.. and constantly take a "look at me" sorta attitude.. well.. I think that's maybe what you're really point at? Or people who's approach to these channels is sorta like that.. in the same way that there are some folks whom you would think very well of.. but as soon as they get behind the wheel.. it's Mr Satan time..

    I don't know.. hope that adds something to the conversation.
  • Trace Cohen
    Matt, this is a very good add on to the conversation. You hit on A LOT of points that everyone should definitely be thinking about. The first is the type of content that you put out there, specifically your status updates and tweets about things that seem to be "useless." There is always a time and a place for this, not everything can be all business all the time, down time is encouraged.

    The next point is the feel of a community around your online presence to give you the sense that you're not actually as alone as you think regardless of who is "actually" around you. Everything is based on perception, so nothing is as it appears to be. I'm glad to hear that you found comfort online in your mothers passing and found that people online can be genuinely nice regardless of whether they know you personally.

    Lastly though, you touched upon the topic of this article when you described your friend. There is always "that guy" out there, whether publicly or just in your group of friends. Luckily for all of us, you seem to keep him under wraps.
  • anthonymci
    I guess the problem with people who 'over-update' is that there is an option on facebook at least to ignore the updates of this person. I know I've done this for a couple of people. So no matter how important or interesting some of their posts may be in the future, I won't see them.
  • Trace Cohen
    Over-updating is a really bad habit. People do care about what you're doing but not that you're eating breakfast or that you're going outside. All it takes is a few times to really piss someone off and then you will never hear from them again. You can't please everyone but you can try pretty hard.
  • Michael Cruse
    Very good points that I think many people miss. It is a fine line from connected to digital shouting. It seems like more shouting has been going on since Twitter and Facebook than the earlier days of web logs. It is all good, I think, but will take time to reach an equilibrium as social media etiquette starts to take root.
  • Trace Cohen
    There is definitely a fine line between shouting and making connections. Facebook and Twitter have there good and bad days, there is just so much going on so it is hard to see through all the clutter. Once social media takes "root" hopefully there will be a nice equilibrium and this won't be of concern.
  • Tariq West
    I couldn't agree more - this is a line I'm very weary of as I start to build a brand online. Grace is probably the most important brand attribute in the long term - balancing self-awareness and ambition, attention-getting and humility.
  • Trace Cohen
    Good point Tariq, you need to be gracious when interacting with people online as it is a different medium. Not to say that you can't be yourself, just the fact that sometimes online things are taken out of context.
  • Anne Messenger
    Love this. Tweeted it and posted to Messenger Associates' FB account. Thanks.
  • Trace Cohen
    Glad you enjoyed it so much and for sharing it with all your friends and followers.
  • Trace Cohen
    This is a great post because sometimes your online presence can be to overwhelming. You may not realize it but if you posts to much, update to much or are just to assertive with your views that it can hinder people from interacting with you. It can be a big problem.
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